Sometimes I feel like I am listening to a 9 year old girl.
Here is the problem…and the problem is the way my friend E. is acting.
She knows the whole kit and caboodle of what happened here.
Mind you, she has always been touchy about money — commenting on who at her workplace has what house, who is driving around in what car and how much her coworkers earn (this is public service and she knows what their salaries are). Who cares and why is this so irritating to her?
She’s been like this for as long as I’ve known her. Maybe I should have realized the squeeze was not worth the juice and ditched her back then.
Yesterday I mentioned that I might take a trip to see a cousin of mine — he lives out in California.
“You must have an awful lot of money if you are talking about taking all these trips.”
I blew sky high — I didn’t care who on that boardwalk bloody heard me — ha, they probably heard me clear across the water to Coney Island somewhere — and I said, “This again from you??? Suppose I tell you HE is paying for the TICKET???” (Cuz offered pay for my expenses to and from; “door is open and let me know if you’re coming to see me; I’ll pay for the ticket to and from”)
My goodness — didn’t we get quiet. I flat out told her if she made a comment like that again, the friendship will be over.
I said “I went through a lot this past decade; I lost a job and I gave up a lot of blood sweat and tears to get Bro out of the picture…” She has to “match” me and go “Oh so did I…I go through a lot at work and I lost a job, too…”
Ever feel like just turning around and leaving somebody right there?
I said “how much money do you think I am getting from the sale of this home? You think it’s a mansion???” To this, she looks down at the floor.
%&*%&#$ if I have to justify this to her or anybody.
This isn’t the first time she’s said something like this — she’s done it in the past more than one time. But yet she gets all touchy if somebody comments about what she is driving ,etc. it’s like she is taking this out on me.
I am seriously rethinking the friendship. I already have enough on my hands and the next thing I am grappling with is where to live — suppose I find a for-cheap house I can rent or maybe even buy? (it would have to be a tiny little house with maybe 6 rooms in it on a tiny piece of property; we still have quite a few of fhem left that fit into that category and that’s the only house I’d consider buying; I might even luck out and be able to get some kind of a loan to buy it) It’s account to her for what I am renting/paying for it?? What good is this to me?
I feel like I am living in a glass box.