I finally got him served. This happened over the weekend.
He is not happy. He has disowned me, I think.
I got a cussing out as part of the deal (“I am getting a lawyer. You’re *****ed!” is what he said.). I do not think he even read the entire contents of the summons. It may be entirely possible he doesn’t even know what I “want” from him or what that summons consists of. What tomfoolery that is in itself.
And I do not think he has made a move to retain anybody. What a fool.
What he needed to do: get on the web and google the issue and find out what a “partition agreement” is. (I would be getting every bit of information about it, if this was ME on the receving end) He thinks I want to draw a line down the center of the house (“You want a partition? there it is” he said, and pointed to my dining room door) and that in itself is foolish. You can arrange it that you sell your portion TO somebody else — and you can indeed have the home turned into 2 separate entities but that’s a lot to do and a lot of legal involvement.
I firmly believe he has NO idea a buyout of his portion is involved. Again, what a fool. I told him all of this in October, before I filed. He did not listen.
What matters: I stopped the codependency and I ended the enablement. I don’t know why I was so stupid and waited so long. It’s over.
This, in itself, is even worse than a divorce. I knew that this was going to happen; what am I supposed to do — let him continue this garbage — riding on my coat tails — for the sake of “preserving” what is left of my immediate family? Man. I can’t do that.
I finished my stint at UPS. The last day was Christmas Eve. Everything you heard about what happened is true.:(