I have another meeting with a second one on Monday.
She suggests that I try to work this out with him — a judge, she said, would be hard pressed to decide “who goes” and she said he’d order the house sold.
The partition agreement would be similar to what the town CFO suggested: hve the home divided in 2 and have 2 separate deeds.
The will is a tenants in common status and we each more or less can sell our portion of the home? I didn’t think you could do this without it being legally declared a condo or like one of those duplex homes where the 2 portions of the dwelling are physically separated by walls.
To top this off, Bro now has a sort of girlfriend living in there with him, along with her child. Very long story how he got her in here — this is the same one he threatened to move in “to help out with expenses.”
This is strange in itself: she is supposed to be here on a temporary basis but here is the thing:
Bro had his cable cut off back in late spring. The cable company came for the box. He’s been getting along with no TV and using somebody’s wifi, I think, to surf the net (he has a tablet up there and he’s been watching TV via the tablet and doing his FB thing with it, also)
Yesterday the cable guy came to reestablish the account
Who is paying fot this? Is it her? Could be… maybe it’s he who is paying for it.
If she is paying for it, I do not think she should be getting involved financially with Bro at all. She is a teacher and I know she’s probably good for $60 grand per year at this point — if I see the light in the hall get fixed and if I see a plumber head up there to fix the sink then I will know something is up for sure. Remember: he’s refused to pay for any repairs.
She needs to stay out of this mess financially and if he wants to live with her, I suggest he do it at an apartment not ont hese premises — because when you move in with somebody it needs to be an “OUR PLACE”. You don’t move anyone into your home; I learned that the hard way when I got married. By rights, my husband should not have been living in what is “my” home; we needed an entirely new abode to call our own.
And I get the idea that if that cable is back, then she is back for good. Even if the account was rebooted so that the kid could watch tv, hey — if you are temporary, you can’t get by with no TV for a week or 2 or 3????
This chick is here to stay, I think. she is supposed to be looking for apartments but I do not think she is going anywhere.
He told me she is here temporarily. (I do not speak to her; it’s a long story and I have too many troubles of my own. I am steering clear of her)
The atty suggests I send him registered letters asking him to pay up, etc. So I at least have it on record that he’s not paid up. And to also have it on record that he’s replied in writing with a game plan…or that if the letters get sent back to the PO unacknowledged, it’s not so good for him.
I have gotten word from Cuz’ atty that the sale of the stock is about to go through — holy shiznizz; NOW it’s only heading to the right channel to be sold? I thought that was what was taking place since mid-July.
IF Bro gave even a degree of a hoot, he’d take that amount he is due from that sale and hand it over to me, with a ;etter in writing saying why he is and what the money is for — and he’d have it notorized before he sent me that letter.
What the letter should say:
“Dear Sis: Enclosed kindly find a check in the amount of $$$ dollars. This is the complete amount of the distribution I an getting from the sale of the stock. Be advised that this payment covers the property taxes, homeowners insurance amount and water utilitiy that I owe you and have not paid. The amount of money that is enclosed forthwith should be more than sufficient to cover all costs.
“If you have any questions kindly let me know. Upon receipt of this letter and check, reply in writing that you have received both this letter and check. Very truly yours, Bro” and have it notorized and sent via certified mail to me.
THAT is what it should say, I think. He can figure out how much property tax he owes since 2006; our tax rate stayed steady for 5 years. he knows how much a quarter the taxes are and how much per year homeowners insurance is; it is about $1500 a year.
I will suggest he fork over the stock sale amount in the certified mail letter I am sending him.
Such a mess all of it. Another morning is here and I am in the same boat. So sad.