This is apparently the nucleus of my problem.
I am called as I am waiting to be interviewed. I get up, I say hello to the interviewer, that person does the same, we sit down and….
Usually within 7 minutes, the interview is over.
Or rarely, I get small talk, some information about the job and then the interviewer fills the rest of the interview time with catch me all go-through-the motions, information. And then the interview is over.
I never hear from these people again.
I can’t name the last time I had a real interview.
I am asked nothing but very general questions…and that is if they ask me anything at all.
Usually it’s “Hello; I’m Mr. Jones and nice to meet you. Well, here is what the job consists of…” He gives me a description of the job that is being offered (like he’s reading the ad back to me) maybe some small talk about the benefits and then it’s “Well, thanks for coming in. We will let you know.”
If you are dismissed immediately: to me, this can mean only one thing: they do not like your looks.
I am not frightening. I am near 60 and I don’t know what it cold be– is it my haircolor? ( It was too red and too phoney — I changed it back to what I more or less originally had) Is it what I wear? (I dress neatly and in interview attire)
I guarantee you I am not a blimp. I am not in the greatest of shape but a Sherman tank I am not.
I’ve got bags under my eyes that I can’t seem to diminish, no matter what I try — I don’t know; maybe they think I get no sleep or I don’t look well — for love of God, I am out of answers and I have no idea why I am rejected immediately, when they see me.
And it is not a race or creed or religion factor.
ANd it is not a marital factor.
Nor do I wind up disclosing information about my family. Shit, nobody asks questions like that anymore. That usually happened in the 1980s.
I would not run an interview as a contest to see who ahs the best clothes or best figure or who is handsome or not. What’ sgoing on here?
The close second:
They want a much younger candidate.
The people who interview me are older — much older than me — maybe they figure a kid is easier to handle and easier to intimidate — I even tried to hide my age on my resume; I used a shortened form of my name so they can’t match my age to the decade my first name was popular in. On my resume, I’ve also used my first 2 initials and my last name istead of my first and last name.
I cannot seem to get past “hello” and “if” I do, I never warrant a genuine interview. Like I said, it is small talk and then a “nice meeting you” and that’s all I get.
I can’t seem to avoid being dismissed. I don’t know what is wrong here. Ha; we can’t even blame this on better competition or “some other factor.”
Are there jobs available where specifically an older person would be welcome — or more or less required??? and desired even more so than somebody even a decade younger? “Mature” candidates? That’s a meaningless wording in a job advertisement.
I will be 60 in a bit more than a year and a half from now. (and I don’t believe I just said that.)
How can I end this turned-away-immediately pattern?
Does anyone know?
The rare interviews — I had ONE last year!! — is being destroyed by this turned-away nonsense. I need a cure all for this.