Updates from me

I finally got him served. This happened over the weekend.

He is not happy. He has disowned me, I think.

I got a cussing out as part of the deal (“I am getting a lawyer. You’re *****ed!” is what he said.). I do not think he even read the entire contents of the summons. It may be entirely possible he doesn’t even know what I “want” from him or what that summons consists of. What tomfoolery that is in itself.

And I do not think he has made a move to retain anybody. What a fool.

What he needed to do: get on the web and google the issue and find out what a “partition agreement” is. (I would be getting every bit of information about it, if this was ME on the receving end)  He thinks I want to draw a line down the center of the house (“You want a partition? there it is” he said, and pointed to my dining room door) and that in itself is foolish. You can arrange it that you sell your portion TO somebody else — and you can indeed have the home turned into 2 separate entities but that’s a lot to do and a lot of legal involvement.

I firmly believe he has NO idea a buyout of his portion is involved. Again, what a fool. I told him all of this in October, before I filed. He did not listen.

What matters: I stopped the codependency and I ended the enablement. I don’t know why I was so stupid and waited so long. It’s over.

This, in itself, is even worse than a divorce. I knew that this was going to happen; what am I supposed to do — let him continue this garbage — riding on my coat tails — for the sake of “preserving” what is left of my immediate family? Man. I can’t do that.

I finished my stint at UPS. The last day was Christmas Eve. Everything you heard about what happened is true.:(

22 thoughts on “Updates from me”

  1. The mixture of guilt and intimidation that has kept you where you are has fallen apart out of necessity. He relied on your sense of responsibility for a long time, and still does. Expect pressure for you to drop the lawsuit, He knows that he has a good deal, and doesn’t want to lose it.

    Your risk is in collecting whatever he owes you or that you are awarded by the court. He is judgement-proof in a lot of ways, Your best case is that the judge orders him to sell you his share of the house for a discounted price (half the fair market value less the debt, to include interest) on a specified timetable, and even then you would have to get a bank to finance it. Even under a partition agreement, selling your share of the house to someone else would not be very desirable, because they would have to put up with Bro, which would drive down the price that you could get for it.

    You still have to deal with joint and several liability, which holds that all owners are responsible for making repairs to the house and paying the taxes. You cannot lay the responsibility for unrepaired damage to the garage or other repairs that need to be made solely on him.

    The day that I went to small claims court over the stuff that my handyman stole almost a year ago, there was a case where a man had helped his sister move to Colorado. She had since moved out of the apartment that she rented and moved in with some guy, but the dispute was over the fact that she had not paid him back for the moving costs to Colorado. When she said that she had asked her brother how much she owed, the judge jumped on it and said that she knew that she owed the money, and that the judge would order that she pay him the amount that he had claimed, which was a few thousand dollars.

    Families that fight over financial matters are nothing new. I grew up in one.

  2. He has not spoken to me since Sunday, when he spoke his piece and gave me a speech about “there’s your partition.”

    Last night I got the actual photographs of the summons taped to the door, w/Bro’s name on it. It’s starting to sink in and it’s not pretty. I have nobody left at this point. Nothing I can do.

    Am I supposed to take this nonsense and let Bro get away with what is blue murder, for the sake of preserving a family relationship? The hell. I have enough financial troubles of my own right now — he’s partially to blame for them. If he did what he was supposed to do, I’d be in another financial boat altogether.

    He has not made a move to protect himself. If I were he, I’d be shaking in my wellies a-plenty and doing all the research that I can. And it is no small feat to round up an attorney. It took me more than a month to do that.

    He either is dense, in denial, thinks this is going to go away or he doesn’t care. He’s a very odd chap — for a long time, I have suspected that he has a dash of mental illness thrown in with the galloping immaturity that he’s got.

    I don’t think he has even read the entire summons. He has the idea that I want to draw a line down the center of the house. He just doesn’t “get it” and this is to his disadvantage.

    I will bet you that he took that list of “in arrears” items that I gave him in October (the one that is now added to the summons and the outstanding fees are still being accumulated) and tossed it in the trash. Before last Saturday, he has not made a move to say, “Dude, let’s sit down and discuss this together; let’s work something out.” Nothing. He just went on with life and never discussed the topic.

    See where this is going?

    And considering he’s got a bone to pick with me, he had no business moving anyone and their child into his apartment. She needed to find her own place to live and take the kiddo with her, NOT come here to live with Bro. She knows ful well that he’s in hock up to his eyebrows with creditors and she knows that he has not been paying one dime for his share of this home since 2006, save a chunk of money here and there.

    This is quite admirable for Girlfriend. You must be very proud to have a guy who says to his sister, “I don’t have any money” and says it every quarter. You must be busting at the seams with pride because he has no character, no honesty and no sense of immediacy and NO responsibility.

    Not to mention you were in clear earshot when he had his screaming fit and cursed blue murder, last Sunday. This truly is a source of pride for you. No, it is the motherlode of all pride. Incredible.

    If he is not honest with his sister, what makes you think he will ever be honest with you?

    Why these girls want crappy guys that are “leftovers” and have problems…but that is another story.

    (I also never got either key. That’s going to be held against him, also)

    I did the same thing that I did the last year of my marriage and did the same thing that I did when my last remaining parent was ill in the hospital and dying: somehow I thought all of this was going to go away and everything would be fine. I don’t know how I got into this kind of mindset.

    This is another sick and misshapen dynamic,the one I have with Bro. Story of my life.

    I remember this one time my mother took this repair guy to court. He didn’t do as he was told and my mother tried to get a refund via the legal route. The case went back and forth in court for a month, as I recall, and the judge ordered Repair Guy to refund the money.

    Some type of “Sherpa” was assigned to Repair Guy to ensure that he was on task with paying back the money. I think my mother got back about a third of what she paid; after that, I think RG vanished and he wasn;t able to be found.

    1. It is harder than most people think to collect bad debts, even with a court order. You’d have to get a lien on Repair Guy’s equipment or vehicle, if he didn’t own a house. Unfortunately, the small claims court process is not built to be particularly easy to use. One way of getting back some of that money is to write it off as a bad debt. If you have enough itemized deductions to make it worthwhile to itemize BEFORE the amount of the bad debt, you can write off the bad debt as a miscellaneous deduction that is not subject to the 2% of income deduction. For most people, this would give them 20-25% of the money back as a tax refund, depending on their income and tax rates. The writing off of a bad debt should also be accompanied by the issue of A Form 1099-MISC to the person who owes you money at their last known address, copied to the IRS, because forgiveness of debt is income to them. It’s a way of screwing them with the IRS. Should you collect the money in full or in part in future years after writing it off, it is income that must be declared.

      What Bro doesn’t understand is that in a partition action, the sale of the house is directed, or can be directed, to a third party. You would need to have money lined up to buy your brother out around the time of the trial or shortly thereafter. The remedy that you are seeking, as I understand it, is to have him removed from the house and to have the ability to buy out his interest in the house at a price that allows you to recover the bills that he has not paid.

      Expecting reason or rationality from most people is a waste of time. They don’t see past their own desires and will get away with what they can. Poorly educated and willfully ignorant people have a huge disadvantage, because they will underestimate the hazards that violations of civil law can cause.They rely on personal force and your sense of responsibility to get their way.

      Girlfriend is in the same category. There is a value to having housing at low or no cost, even under less than optimal circumstances. I’d ask the judge to award you back rent on Girlfriend. If Bro owns only half of his half after his bills are paid off, you are entitled to rent from her.

      1. The tab he has run up, plus the back rent and ouster would be deducted from the amount of the buyout. So Bro pays for this one way or another.

        I am accounting for the rent and the ouster.

        An apartment like that would cost them a good chunk of change — and that she is here has thrown a great big fly into the ointment.

        if she was not here it would be “he and I” and that’s it. That she is here screws up the group dynamics.

        His first obligation is to this house; even if he was married, he is still obligated to pay for what he is to pay for and gee, whoever he is with needs to understand that much. If I was with somebody and I found out he was being sued, you’d bet I’d want to know why and what is involved. And depending upon the reason for the action? If I was only living with the person, I am 100% sure I’d move the heck out in an eyeblink. No way in hades would I stay with him.

        I just now told him I needed money from him and that he needs to start making good for what he owes. “Anything you want, you speak to my attorney from here on in. JUST SAYING” and he slammed out the door.

        A week has gone by. he has retained nobody. If he has, I’d have that person’s name, I think, from my attorney.

        And I am sure that his attorney would have contacted mine — he would need the copy of the deed and a bunch of other legal things: he’s retained nobody. Fool — and a big one.

        And Bro would be asking for the same for his his atty: a copy of the deed. He’s retained nobody.

        Getting a good atty takes time. It took me 6 weeks from start to finish before I chose somebody! This isn’t done overnight… hey, not my problem.

        And this also is what screws this up for me. He is going to be even more reluctant to give me what he is supposed to give me, now that she is here.

        This has screwed this up infinitely, with the GF living here. t would be he and I. And that’s all. We’d be one on one. Not anymore.

        The group dynamic is changed.

        It would be so much more easy for me to cope with what’s going on. That’s not possible now, with a fifth wheel being in the picture. It’s impossible to convey how much a third person in the picture is having a bearing on what is happening here with the suit and Bro.

        All of this with that Repair Guy happened way back in the 1980s. The court case took a month — my mother went back for a few meetings with a mediator — I remember it was like pulling teeth to get the money from him — before, that is, he pulled a vanishing act. He could have gone back to Poland or to East Yebip or wow, who knows where?

        Not easy for me. This is worse than my divorce. It was almost blood chilling looking at the photos that were sent to me.

        Plus there is my other mess and I don’t know how that is going to be resolved.

        There is nobody around to talk to. I tried calling a few of my friends; nobody is home.

        1. Having a court date set may be what spurs him to do something. I’d be in contact with the court to ask when the court date will be. It’s usually a few weeks past the expected service date, but it took longer than I would have expected. His problem will be coming up with with a retainer for the lawyer. This isn’t the kind of case that the lawyer can expect to claim a percentage, so it all has to be cash on the barrelhead. Legal Aid won’t be helpful to him, so he is looking at the need to represent himself, which may beyond his capabilities. Emotions will run too high with him. The judge has the ability to throw him in jail for contempt of court.

          Girlfriend might screw up the group dynamic, but her presence doesn’t change the law, and she has no standing under the law to countersue or take any other kind of action. She and the kid have to leave when and if Bro is ordered to vacate. Her presence may be reassuring to Bro, making him less likely to act, which works for you.

          Where he does have an advantage is that it is very easy for you to feel guilty about the situation. It’s screwed up, but it’s something that I understand. Still, you can’t afford to carry him and still take care of yourself.

          Hope is what makes it impossible to take effective action. You no longer have the luxury of mercy for your brother.

  3. Having a court date set may be what spurs him to do something. I’d be in contact with the court to ask when the court date will be. It’s usually a few weeks past the expected service date, but it took longer than I would have expected.

    If I recall, there was no court date set for my divroce until after Day 35 elapsed.

    Day 35 is at the end of this month. I suspect there won’t be a date until February sometime and a court date after Day 35 has elapsed. Not unless it is different in a case like this one.

    I will call the chancery court on Monday; it couldn’t hurt. See if they have a date yet for the trial.

    His problem will be coming up with with a retainer for the lawyer. This isn’t the kind of case that the lawyer can expect to claim a percentage, so it all has to be cash on the barrelhead. Legal Aid won’t be helpful to him, so he is looking at the need to represent himself, which may beyond his capabilities. Emotions will run too high with him. The judge has the ability to throw him in jail for contempt of court.

    Sure, this is going to cost him a good chunk of change. And this is his problem, not mine.

    He has retained nobody. He would be asking me for the deed. He hasn’t done that.

    I also suspect he hasn’t got the foggiest that what is happening is a buyout. He hasn’t read the summons.. I don’t know what he is thinking but what I do know: he is a fool.

    They don’t work on a contingency basis. (and I think this is why he never filed Chapter 11: he had no money for an attorney. Or maybe he was just tring to scare me by saying he was going to do it) If he tries to represent himself, that won’t work. Way beyond his scope. This isn’t like a DIY divorce or small claims court, where I think you can indeed represent yourself.

    Girlfriend might screw up the group dynamic, but her presence doesn’t change the law, and she has no standing under the law to countersue or take any other kind of action. She and the kid have to leave when and if Bro is ordered to vacate. Her presence may be reassuring to Bro, making him less likely to act, which works for you.
    Maybe it might work for me but this is still a lot of stress and static added to the picture.

    Where he does have an advantage is that it is very easy for you to feel guilty about the situation. It’s screwed up, but it’s something that I understand. Still, you can’t afford to carry him and still take care of yourself.

    I don’t feel guilty at all: did he feel guilty by doing what he did? No. He just went ahead and did it.

    Hope is what makes it impossible to take effective action. You no longer have the luxury of mercy for your brother
    Hope gets you nothing in a tangible bind like the one I am in. And sorry I didn’t do something about this when it began: give him 2 quarters to make good and if he didn’t: small claims court for the maybe 2K or so he was in hock for with me and a partition action to get him out of here.

    Stupid me.:(

    I sincerely think he has no idea what is going on. He has always been like this: has never read the fine print — he also had no clue what was involved in filing bankruptcy but he was going to do it despite that. Even money says he has not read that summons, nor gone to the net to research what is involved in partition agreement. If that’s the way he’s going to have the line rush, that’s up to him.

  4. If there is no court date stated on the summons, I’d give even money that he doesn’t show up. In that case, you could get a default judgement due to his failure to show up.

  5. He is a default if he doesn’t sign.

    He is double in dutch if he doesn’t show up, either.

    I’m telling you — I know this guy better than I do myself — he has no idea what the story really is. Maybe he thinks this is silliness and a judge will throw that “line down the center” bit right out of court… I don’t know but he isn’t taking any of this seriously.

    Hasn’t even read the summons nor did he even research the “topic.”

  6. So far everything is quiet.

    This is Day 21 and he has not signed and returned yet, to my knowledge.

    I asked him for money again on Tuesday (as I will weekly) and I got a no and a sarcastic answer. “Anything you want contact my attorney” was one of them.

    He is still obligated to pay.

    I am doing the right thing. The only thing I am upset about is that pretty much now I am alone; he more or less is gone for good now.

    There’s no other next of kin; the cousins I have are few and we don’t have much contact with them and all the aunts and uncles are gone.

    Why I wish I could have remarried. I’d have somebody in my corner and I wouldn’t be alone in this.

    If I chose to do nothing, it would have been disasterous. And the path that that took would still have wound up with him taking a permanent hiatus from me. I “lose” either way.

    I had to do something; this is out of necessity and he cannot ride my coattails. A man who does that is no man at all.

    Considering what is what and what he has done (and other things he has done, extrinsic of this problem now) I am wondering if he has a case of mental illness or is on the Aspergers spectrum somewhere. The day the cops came he was disclosing highly confidential information to a cop — none of which had anything to do with the situation at hand.

  7. Civil court is probably different from small claims court. In small claims court. a tentative court date is set prior to service of the summons. If they expect it to take 4 weeks to serve someone, the court date might be set for six weeks from the day that you file your case.

    Doesn’t apply here; I filed in mid-October. It took 6 weeks for the sheriff to get the paperwork to serve. That surprised me and how. I didn’t think that was the way they did things and when I was over at chancery court 2 months ago, I was told “see your attorney for any information.” They didn’t even admit they didn’t have the summons to deliver just yet.

    If they are not served in 4 weeks, the date will be pushed forward. Check with the court to see whether a trial date has been set. However, it is odd that he did not sign the summons. The sheriff or process server needs their copy with his signature to prove service.

    I was sent a number of photographs where it was clear the summons was delivered. I don’t know how they actually know he got the summons in hand.,

    If he hasn’t returned the summons, if it needs returning, there is always a deadline, and he would be liable for civil contempt penalties, such as contempt of court, which can carry jail time. After my handyman was served, and it turned out to be a relative who actually signed the subpoena, the sheriff mailed a copy of the signed subpoena to me. Procedures may vary. The New Jersey statutes that apply to people being subpoenaed for criminal cases are a lot clearer, or at least more accessible

    He’s got 35 days. That deadline is up next Friday.

    “His lawyer” is probably Matlock (and Andy Griffith died a couple of years ago). Don’t ignore the possibility of him just being a user and someone who wants to hand off paying the bills to you. He got away with it for years, so why not a few more years?

    If he doesn’t sign and return, this case is expedited all the more quickly. A third party signs for him for the buyout.

    This is the kind of case that takes money up front for a lawyer. What a subpoena does is to order a person to appear in court to defend against a particular charge or allegation. They should not need to send anything back UNLESS they are pleading guilty and paying whatever fine that the court requires.

    I say Bro is flush and has no problems paying for anything. His utilites are all up and running and heck, he sure had money for oil this season. He won’t pay 3 or 3 grand for a retainer; that I do know.

    Focus on your problems. Bro’s problems are his problems, and you can’t help him without him dragging yourself down. Even if he is mentally ill, he doesn’t have the money to hire an expert witness to prove that his mental illness is the direct cause of his inability to pay his bills.

    I am having a hard time coping with the anger and the fact that I waited too long to do something about this. I should have done this years ago. Done it when he began it and did something about it when I still had time and money on my side.

    I still suspect that he thinks this is some kind of silly case I have with him — “she wants to draw a line…” He probably thinks a judge will throw it out of court.

    You can divide a 2 family home in 2 — you’d still need an attorney to coordinate it and you also need an engineer, an architect and a carpenter to do it — it would be divided physically like a duplex house or a condo. that sucks, though — it would screw up the value of the home and suppose you don’t like it later on? You’d have to go through legal channels to reverse it…and that’s if you can. I imagine a variance would be needed, too?

    I am trying to cope with the fact I now have nobody at all. I am on my own hereon in. So sorry I waited so long. All those years I’d be to the better.

    I didn’t do this for laughs or for spite or an “I’ll fix you.” I did this for a good reason. And sorry the whole thing took so long for me to wake up and do something about it.

    He cut his nose off to spite his face — he lives here too — he never seemed to get that concept. He never even followd up on the frozen pipes I had a couple weeks ago! Again, his house too even if this happened in my kitchen and bathroom!!!! He didn’t even go downstairs to the basement to see if the pipes there were okay — we had 2 degree temps.

    Just not responsible and just doesn’t care.

    Let the universe take care of him. I can’t let his mess live rent free in my mind and I have something important to do this week. He’s not going to rain on my parade or upstage me.

    1. The more mistakes that your brother makes, the better it is for you. However, he may wind up buying himself time if the judge orders him to get counsel to appear in court with him. This would be a shorter timeline than getting to hearing #1.

      It sounds like the subpoena process used is like that at my old apartment complex in Maryland, where notice was posted on the person’s front door when they were late with rent or about to be evicted. They had to answer the summons by a certain date, presumably by making payment in full of the late rent and whatever fees. I did not read any of them carefully because they did not concern me. One month, all three of my neighbors on my floor had notices.

      Partition by division does not make sense in your case because the amount owed by your brother after the amount of debt that he owes you is considered might make him entitled to 20% of the property versus the 50% with which he started, and you don’t have the money to make a physical partition workable. Partition by division is more common with tracts of land. The more probable outcome of your partition filing is that the house will be ordered to be sold, with you entitled to half of the sales proceeds plus the amount of our brother’s debts plus court costs and interest. What you can hope for is that the judge finds that due to the debt that your brother has run up, he has no equity interest in the house anymore, and must leave, and that you are to receive free and clear title to the house.

  8. IT’s maddening.

    Today was bad — I was all set to roll for an interview tomorrow (or Thursday, depending upon whether or not the company closed due to inclement weather; we have a lollapalooza of a snow storm in progress) and the company emailed me mid-afternoon. Cancelled. Said they ran out of money for the job.

    Meanwhile, this is the day after he summoned me to come in for an interview, so I suspect they either hired somebody on Tuesday or they changed their mind about me. This was only a part time gig and I had no idea what it paid…that’s my only consolation.

    I am over a barrel; you know Bro will no longer give me any money (all for spite and to “bust me” because he is in legal dutch with me) and wow, I have to pay my utilities.

    He does not care his debt is still climbing. he doesn’t know about the ouster or the rent thing. And I don’t think he even cares, period.

    For tracts of land, I can see partition. You can’t do that with a house where there is a basement and a driveway with a garage. How can you divide up the driveway and garage?

    I don’t want the house to be sold. At my age, I cannot afford a mortgage. How could I pay a mortgage without a job?

    Where would I go and the proceeds from half of this home would buy me nothing much at all. The prices of homes in this area are not exactly cheap.

  9. I just tallied up his expenses, so to speak, up until February. Now I’m madder than ever.

    What kind of a person does something so lousy and so egregious to somebody else??

    If I was the judge and I saw where this was at money wise, you bet he’d get zero equity in the home and he would not be given a buyout: he’d be stripped of his ownership and told Be out in 30 days.

    This isn’t a peon pile of money! This is a very large sum of cash that he did not make good on.

    The dynamics are not normal. Something changed here somewhere; to me, this is very similar to a significant other or a spouse emotionally checking out of the relationship. The playing field changed with him and who knows why?

    1. Unfortunately, property law requires the judge not to take Bro’s interest in the house just because he owes you some money. Should you be able to prove that he owes you enough money to wipe out the value of his interest in the house, you might be able to get a judgement in your favor that awards you sole title to your house. due to Brp’s long-term failure to make good on his share of expenses. Otherwise, the probable outcome of a partition action is the sale of the house, with you getting half of the net proceeds plus whatever the court decides that Bro owes you. Check with your lawyer.

      If you were awarded clear title to the house in your name only, you would still have the repairs and maintenance to do with no income. You might be able to rent out the space that Bro now occupies.

      1. Unfortunately, property law requires the judge not to take Bro’s interest in the house just because he owes you some money. Should you be able to prove that he owes you enough money to wipe out the value of his interest in the house, you might be able to get a judgement in your favor that awards you sole title to your house. due to Brp’s long-term failure to make good on his share of expenses.

        There is also the stress and strain and emotional burden on me: I was day to day on this mess, starting with the first time he said “I don’t have the money.” Doesn’t that add to the damages?

        Otherwise, the probable outcome of a partition action is the sale of the house, with you getting half of the net proceeds plus whatever the court decides that Bro owes you. Check with your lawyer.

        I was told a judge has to decide what percentage Bro is entitled to based on damages. There’d be a buyout based on that and if Bro won’t sign, a third party signs for him or if there is a “Mexican standoff” the house would be sold, as per the judge.

        If you were awarded clear title to the house in your name only, you would still have the repairs and maintenance to do with no income. You might be able to rent out the space that Bro now occupies.

        I would be renting it anyway.

        This is a great big mess.

        And it would still be a mess if I let this go and did nothing. That house would be lost for sure.

  10. This is awful.

    A communique this afternoon from my atty: bro has asked for a month’s extension to sign: now he doesn’t have to respond until start of March.

    Looks like he might be trying to scrape up money for the retainer…and to top this off, somebody at that law firm he’s retained knows both he and I.

    She works there; she is not an attorney.

    I do not think that firm should be permitted to handle his case: according to my atty this isn’t an ethics violation but I say it is: it is a conflict of interest to me.

    You aren’t permitted to be on a jury if you know John Smith and/or John Doe, the defendant and plantiff. Right? Nor are you permitted to be on the jury if you know anybody else involved in the case — so why is this an exception?

    Now it’s wait until spring sometime for the case to be heard by a judge. This is a lot taken out on me; I have it coming at me in all directions. Worsening all of this for me.

    I want to know what the specific reason is for his asking for an extension. I have the right to know, right?

    He needs another month and a half extension??? He already had 35 days of a time period assigned to him! Why should he be entitled to more time??? This shouldn’t have happened and it should not have been permitted.

    1. You might notify the court of the potential conflict of interest. If the lady does not work directly for the lawyer who is handling your case, it might be permissible. Lawyers and their staff are expected to meet a certain standard of discretion. It is nearly impossible for someone in a law office to avoid hearing news of other cases.

      Often, the first continuance is granted routinely upon request. It happened to me when my handyman first came to trial. In both cases, the defendant had every incentive to prolong the case. My guess is that if Bro had shown up in court without representation, the judge may well have ordered a continuance to allow Bro to retain counsel. Not everyone is capable of depending themselves, and as you’ve said, it wasn’t easy to find a lawyer to take your case in the first place.

      1. And is this nice of her? She should have refused and said, “Jim, I am sorry — I can’t even consider doing this. I know you and Dude. Wishing you luck” and ring off.

  11. I am trying to not turn this into a shitty soap opera but to me, since you know both the defendant and the plaintiff and know them well, be a decent person and politely say “Sorry I can’t help you; this wouldn’t be right. I know the both of you and that’s why I am sitting this one out. Wishing you luck” and ring off.

    What a mess. I again told him I need money and he refused, on the basis I am suing him. (this was a few hours ago)

    I have no heat, the temperature in this house is 46 degrees. I have a headache that won’t quit and I am wondering how much more of my private business do the people at my town’s social service department need to know? How much more of my information am I supposed to give out to them??? I have lived in this town for years and I have been FINE! YEah…and that was when I had a thing called “a full time livable wage job.”

    The town food bank reeks — it is dirty and it smells in there and the frozen goods are all frost-laden — what you get when an item is in the freezer for too long of a time — there are also outdated goods being given out. (there have been many fundraisers for that food bank and emergency fund; this is pretty scant and barren — where is all that money going??? They can’t even go out and buy some decent stainless steel refrigerators???)

    Any entity that handles food being given to the public needs to be inspected by the town health department and fire department, the same as they do for restaurants and supermarkets. And the people who are handling the food need to comply with a board of health regulation, also — the same way that waiters do.

    Walmart should be ashamed of the food they sell. Disgusting too — the meat has to have something added/or is irradiated —- to prevent spoilage. (I got a $10 card for food from the foodbank)

    And in the middle of this damn mess I am wondering What Happened To My Full Time Job.

    That seems to have gotten lost in the heterodyne.

  12. They’ve gone off on a week’s vacation — I found this out by happenstance. So so much for asking for an extension because he is having trouble attaining money for the retainer.

    He never told me he was going; what if there was an emergency upstairs or one with me?

    And it is going to be even colder down here for me; that heat must be shut off.

    What a mess I’ve got here.

  13. If you’re still tuned in, there are now 8 days left for Bro to sign and return.

    Brois still trying to stooge around and raise the money. Nothing has been signed and returned.

    The show will go on and a hearing will take place even if he has not got representation. He cannot ask for another extension.

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